I've gone to the Philippines six times for my girlfriend, but we've met only once in two years. Am I wasting my time

I'm posting this because I've been dealing with this situation for a while and I genuinely want some outside opinions.

I'm 27 and she's 23. We met on Tinder in 2024 and have been talking for about two years. In that time I've gone to the Philippines six times, but we've met in person only once. Even when we finally met, she wouldn't let me hug or even touch her.

I've been staying in the Philippines since May, and we haven't seen each other once this whole time. She gives me a date to meet, but as the day gets close something always comes up and she cancels. And somehow, when I question it, things get turned around as if I'm the one who did something wrong.

Our communication has gotten really bad too. Sometimes she suddenly disappears or barely talks. I once reached out to her cousin just to understand what was going on, but whenever I do, she immediately contacts me and tells me not to message her family.

Over the past two years I've also helped her financially with tuition, rent, flowers and other expenses. I did it because I cared about her and thought we were building a real relationship.

But now I'm questioning everything. I've crossed the world several times, I'm literally in the Philippines right now, and somehow we still can't meet. After two years I still barely know her family, and I don't feel like I'm part of her life.

I know relationships, especially long-distance ones, can be complicated. But I'm starting to wonder if I've been ignoring obvious red flags because I wanted this to work.

I'm curious what others think. Does this sound like someone who really wants a relationship, or does it sound like I'm being used and wasting my time?