Quite, They're not sucking old rotten wieners because they enjoy it.

Everyone wants a better life and freedom

‘But I wonder: how common are women who use a man just to get a green card or residency?’ Far more common than anyone wants to admit. And it's not because women are evil... it's because the incentives are set up so that using a man for a green card is one of the highest-return moves available to a woman from a developing country. The system rewards her for it and shames him for falling for it. Hypergamy is real. Passport inequality is real. Put the two together and you get a dynamic that's been quietly playing out for decades... while society pretends it doesn't happen. Not every woman does it. But enough do that every man dating internationally should keep his eyes open.

I seriously dated 4 Filipinas. Zero wanted to go to the USA. Three were pretty well off financially. One was a call center worker. My wife bought land in a fancy subdivision and is building a house. Young men, date clever girls with hustle. I'm 45 and I've done maybe 8 months of real work in the last 5 years. If she's carrying an extra 5 kg, it's probably from sitting at her computer working a remote job that pays $3,000 a month. Don't suffer for the 10s — coast with the 7s.

I'm a Filipina in my 30s with a stable job, single for over 10 years, with no plans to emigrate anywhere. I'm just lurking here, reading the comments and enjoying the conversations. 😂 I have no plans to get into a relationship unless I meet someone I truly love who genuinely loves me back. I believe in dating with the intention to marry. I'm a confident, independent woman who just wants a peaceful, simple life here in the Philippines. I've traveled to other countries on vacation by myself, so I'm used to being on my own and doing things alone. For now I'm just living my life, enjoying my independence, and trusting that the right person will come at the right time. ❤️ Have a nice evening, everyone.

My wife was clear from the start that she wanted to work and help her family. A green card is essential for that. It's one of the biggest attractions of coming to the USA for a lot of people. I was a public school teacher with two young sons and a house already, but I could still support her without asking for any of her earnings. We were happy, and she helped out financially anyway. But here's the KEY: I never asked her about her earnings. In fact, for 15 years we had separate bank accounts. It was much easier that way. If anything, I should say she's practically spoiled me. She had two 5-year computer engineering degrees and already a job with Coca-Cola Philippines, yet when she came to Savannah, Georgia, she was ready to work almost anywhere — McDonald's, Victoria's Secret. I said ‘nope,’ but for the first couple of months she did grunt work folding clothes at JCPenney. She just wanted to work hard and earn. And she's pretty much lived the ‘American dream,’ working her way up to a salaried corporate medical job — if that and working from home fit your definition of success. She now earns more than I did as a teacher. Over the years she's helped out a lot, and it was even better because I never expected it. Anyway, when I met her 24 years ago and we married a few years later — me 47, her 23 — she was completely honest and open about wanting to work legally. Smart enough to handle all the (many) papers, too. And we were, and still are, totally into each other. One hell of a woman — bless the Philippines. But someone you're only just starting out with? You're already worried a hidden motive will poison your ‘relationship’? I hope you're not falling for some story that it's ‘100%’ about love. Let's be practical. A green card is a prize. When she gets here, you'll still be you, but she'll go from employed and ‘attractive’ to ‘exotically hot.’ Can she handle all that without looking down on you? In the end it comes down to how she was raised, how clearly she sees life, and whether life has beaten her down too much. It's up to her to ‘show’ whether she has the strong inner character for this: ‘Stick-to-itiveness.’ And your gut feeling after meeting her family and friends and thinking it all over. Because yes, there are ‘green card sharks’ looking out only for themselves and their families. Life is really hard for a lot of people there. We have no idea. Imagine there were no jobs here and you had mouths to feed, and suddenly someone offered you work papers for a great job in London or Sydney — would you turn it down? Nobody marries for pure romance. We all want to improve our lives. Marriage always starts with ‘for better or for worse,’ and the better always comes first. I hope you find that better part and that it lasts a long time.