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Oct 5

Started talking to a 30-year-old Filipina teacher from Bohol a month ago. Are they usually this shy and quiet?

I'm American and 44, and she's 30. We met on a dating app a month ago. We text and video chat almost every day, but she's really quiet and barely tells me anything personal, while I'm an open book. I have to lead the conversation and pry if I want to know something (asking over and over and explaining why), and even then she seems nervous and reluctant to tell me. On video calls I mostly just see her eyeball, nose, and forehead. I have to tease her to get her to show her whole face, and even that doesn't last long. She says she looks haggard and she's shy, even though I keep telling her she's not ugly. I've talked to her sister on video calls, and her sister seems totally normal on the phone, so I'm a bit confused. I feel like she isn't trying very hard and isn't showing much interest, or that she's scared. I've met her younger sister and brother on video calls, and last week she had her mom say hi to me, and she said her family asked about me at dinner, so I kind of feel like she might just be a shy Catholic girl — but I'm still not 100% sure. Is this normal behavior, and if so, when does it end? If not, please explain. Any tips to make our conversations a bit livelier? Thank you.

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Someone else involvedAsk the sister outDon't waste timeShy, give it timeShe's not into youIs 30 old?Watch for money asks
Someone else involved
Possible_Company_her64

Maybe she misses her husband.

Ask the sister out
CoolMarch141

Ask the sister out.

Don't waste time
matabang_king29

The real question is why you'd even bother. It's not like you're 75. There are plenty of fish out there if this one doesn't like your bait

Shy, give it time
East_Yellow83899

The Philippines is the second most ‘emotional’ country. That makes some people incredibly shy and insecure — scared of saying the wrong thing and scared of being judged. I've also found some Filipinos look up to Americans. They see us as rich, of course. But I think some also see us as kind of the most popular kid in school lol. Which is completely ridiculous, of course.

She's not into you
bergensk888

She's not shy. She's just not that into you. A woman who's genuinely interested in getting to know you will make an effort to show up on video calls looking presentable and natural.

Is 30 old?
Devilss_Advocate0

30 is old. She's probably insecure about aging. Find a 20-year-old

Watch for money asks
baby_budda9

Has she asked you for any sick-buffalo money yet?

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