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Oct 4

Since when does 'look where you're going' not apply to people walking while staring at their phones?

I walk a lot, probably more than my back would like. And when I walk, I'm usually heading straight to wherever I need to be.

My rule with phones is pretty simple. If I need to look something up, reply to something, check directions, whatever, I step out of the flow of people and do it there.

I don't wander through crowded places staring at a screen and expect everyone else to steer around me.

But apparently that's not a given for everyone.

I'm fed up with getting pushed aside, bumped into, and nearly run over by people moving through public spaces in packs with their faces buried in their phones.

So I've changed my approach.

I'm about 6'2" (around 188 cm) and 195 lbs (around 88 kg). Hard to miss. I keep to the right, keep my head up, look ahead, and pay attention to where I'm going.

If someone heads straight for me completely absorbed in their phone, I no longer step aside automatically. I don't deliberately run into anyone either.

I just keep walking my line.

That has earned me plenty of dirty looks and more than a few curses. I speak Tagalog, so I understand them just fine.

Of course I make way for elderly people, people with mobility issues, kids, or anyone who just needs a bit of consideration. That's exactly why I've had a lifelong habit of keeping my head up and eyes forward.

This isn't about bulldozing people. It's about a basic social agreement: we're all responsible for watching where we're going.

So I'm curious.

1. Do you often run into people who walk into you, or almost do, in malls and other crowded places because they're looking at their phones?

2. What do you do? Keep dodging, say something, or just keep walking your line and let them rediscover their spatial awareness?

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Groups walking abreastDeeper than phonesLocal walking habitsJabs and repost claimsI hold my ground tooAdapt to local ways
Groups walking abreast
sexy-porn6

Phones are a big cause, but in my experience it's far more often a group of family or friends walking five abreast who couldn't care less that they're in everyone's way. I don't say anything confrontational, but I don't make myself smaller and I don't step aside. Funny thing is, I've spent quite a while in Japan and it's even worse there. People are even more glued to their phones and completely oblivious when they walk. Sidewalks and train stations are total chaos, and then you add bicycles to the mix. For a society that puts so much weight on rules and norms, it feels contradictory.

Deeper than phones
TL3223

Phones haven't helped, but I think the problem goes deeper. Compared to everywhere else I've been, at least, not paying attention to your surroundings seems to be the default here, and it feels that way too. My favorite example is people stopping dead at the end of a busy escalator. But I think the disconnect is that the social agreement you describe (you're fully responsible for watching out for yourself) doesn't really exist here. The unspoken understanding seems closer to 'stopping anywhere or drifting around is fine, so you watch out for me when I do it, and I'll watch out for you when you do.' (Of course, everywhere has a rude minority, and when the natural consequence happens, like bumping into you, they feel publicly called out for their rudeness and get angry instead.)

Local walking habits
mr21vp1

Even one Filipino who isn't on their phone can take up a whole sidewalk, because they tend to zigzag randomly while walking at a snail's pace. A lot of them also seem to buffer mentally and stop suddenly, like they're trying to remember why they're here and where they're going.

Jabs and repost claims
btt1011

Get on with your life…

I hold my ground too
Vineyard21091

I get your frustration, and trust me, I hold my ground too.. watch where you're going..

Adapt to local ways
Wanderir0

Like any good guest, I adapt to the local culture. I don't push my ideas on locals. I do my best to follow local customs. In other words, go along to get along.

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