There's no future or money in medical billing. AI will take it over. There's no future in his plans. Retail is stressing him out?

If the plan is to live in the US, he needs to stay in the US (apart from a trip to see you). He needs enough income to bring you over, and his current job might not be enough. With that job, he also might not have the skills to do any meaningful work online. He definitely shouldn't go to the Philippines hoping to find online work. If he wants online work, he should look for it while he's still working. Personally, though, if his current job pays enough to sponsor you, I wouldn't change anything until you're in the US. Also, the fiancé process is faster than the spouse process, so don't get married in the Philippines — wait until you're in the States. All you need to start the process is to have been together in person within the last two years. If you've met and the last meeting was less than two years ago, he can fill out the paperwork right now. If his income is high enough, it's just a matter of filling out forms, waiting, and doing each step as it comes.

I'm not sure I'd live with a man who's only “planning” to go to school. I'd want him to finish school and get a job he can do remotely before he moves. That way the job pays in USD, probably with benefits. I think it'd be easier if he got a better job in the US and brought you over on a fiancée visa, since that gives him time to go to school and find a better job before you arrive — but that's up to you. I'm from an older generation, and I wouldn't marry someone without a job. I don't care about plans, dreams, hopes, etc. I want a job in hand, because if you get pregnant, it's hard to raise a baby without one.

Do you plan to move to the US with him eventually? Do you two have enough money to get by while he's studying in the Philippines with no income? Or is he planning to study in the US while still working? A spousal visa can take 2 to 3 years to process.

Being under 30 and feeling “stress” in a country so many people would give up everything to live in might be a red flag, no? I'm not saying this to be mean — stress got the best of me at that age too. There are plenty of “triggers” in the US for sure, but someone under 30 seeking refuge in a “developing” country, even if it's the most beautiful and endearing one with the kindest people, isn't the best long-term solution in my humble opinion. Then again, I'm 59, long in the tooth, and getting close to actually retiring there. Most remote workers have years of experience at real call centers or brick-and-mortar companies before they're in demand as overseas remote employees. Anyone can get remote work, but the good kind that can support a family (even in the Philippines) goes to people with proven experience. In the grand scheme of things, you're both still quite young. In the long run, you could be his stabilizing anchor in America, where he (or both of you) can work 15–20 years to qualify for a decent monthly Social Security retirement benefit, while gaining experience at reputable companies with state-of-the-art training programs that online “classrooms” can't match. It takes longer, but it opens up more opportunities for you too, whether you go the K-1 visa route or the spousal visa petition (if you marry in the Philippines). Love should be enough, but being practical matters too. I think you'd want to know your guy can come through when times get tough and won't run off to another country looking for peace when they do. Life will hand you stress wherever you land. Learning to handle it, and thrive despite it, comes from facing it. Take care (Ingat po). Best of luck to you both!

I'm in the same situation — been waiting 3 years on an annulment and it's so stressful. Your man should get an immigration lawyer to help with the process