I'm a woman from the Philippines. I'm wondering if anyone…

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If I were you, I would keep contacting him peacefully so he doesn't feel pressured. That's the first thing. Make it clear that you are only concerned about the child's well-being, and that you don't want anything more than making sure the child doesn't go hungry and gets an education. If he feels you are trying to use the situation for personal gain, he may disappear, block you, and cut off contact for good. If the situation is genuine, you have a chance to appeal to his conscience. In my opinion, that's a much better chance than hiring an expensive lawyer who just squeezes money out of him. If you two were casual acquaintances and it just "happened," I don't know what to say... Even if he lied, he said he would come, and when the paternity test came up he didn't disappear right away. That means contact is still going on, which I see as a positive. He might not be the worst person. If you are Facebook friends, you may be able to see his family's contacts: siblings, cousins, friends, coworkers. Save all of their contact information in case he blocks you. They will be relatives of the baby, so it could help in many ways. He probably doesn't want his family or friends to know about this, and that alone could be a reason for them to get involved. From a limited perspective, I think appealing to his conscience is the way forward. If you bring up the paternity test, he might disappear. Unless you were casually dating and also seeing other men around the same time, he likely knows the baby is his. Be careful. Keep updating him slowly and gently. When the baby is born, send him photos. If you keep in touch without ever pressuring him, there will at least be a path for the child to meet their father someday. If he feels something, he may surprise you someday, maybe even more than you imagine, though not right away. If it's his baby, the child will probably resemble him. Appeal to emotion, not the law. If you go the aggressive legal route, you'll get nothing. If he disappears, he's probably gone for good.

If you had used a condom, this wouldn't have happened. Or any of the hundreds of other contraceptive methods. This was your plan. But the plan fell through, and now you're pregnant and it's ruined.

If the father were Filipino, you wouldn't have asked for child support because you'd know you wouldn't get it anyway. I'm not saying he did anything wrong, but that's a double standard.

I've been through this too. It was a very long and expensive trial. DNA proved paternity and the Philippine court ruled that he had to pay child support, but in the end he got out of his responsibility and went back to his own country. I fought hard but only got seriously sick from the stress. Some men are really trash!